I apologize for making my responses so long, I hope that you can take the time to read through it all.

Some gay couples say, "You know, if God doesn't think that what we're doing is right, then he can't be good." Are these bad people? You would probably say no. So why would you say that God is bad, for feeling the same way about those who don't think that what he does is right?.


God showed amazing intelligence in the way that he orchestrated the sexual experience to create a baby. When a woman is sexually excited, her reproductive system prepares itself to receive sperm. When a man becomes erect and achieves orgasm, it gives the sperm a quick and uninterrupted path to the females womb. That's how God made us. He realizes that the result of this is that people will want to experience this pleasure often. That's why it is written that if a man can not control his desires toward a woman, let them marry. But even in marriage we must practice self control. When we are fasting and praying we are not supposed to have sex with our spouses, and we are never to commit adultery. Of course, this doesn't work for those who walk according to the flesh, just people who are walking according to the spirit. People who walk after the flesh, don't practice self control, it's not important to them. They find it very difficult to not have sex with the people they are sexually attracted to or in love with.


You are correct in saying that the purpose of sex is not just to have children. There are other purposes for US, but not for GOD. God does not express his love for us through sex. God isn't having an orgasm when we are or enjoying ecstasy. However when we have a child, God is also, for we are all his children. Also, contraceptives are made for us, to make having pre-marital sex and adultery more convenient for US, not more pleasing to GOD.

I don't know how old you are, but your statement that sex is an expression of mutual love seems childish and naive. (That's not meant to be an insult to you.) Please don't confuse sex with love. I know that many people may not agree, but I don't believe that sex is an expression of love. I used to think so. That type of thinking is one of the reason's why we have so many young girls having pre-marital sex and getting pregnant or spreading diseases. Many of them think, I love this boy so I am going to do this for him or he must love me if he's doing this with me. If sex is an expression of something, then it is just an expression of mutual, or sometimes one-sided, passion. This can be passion to please or passion to experience pleasure, but it's not about love. We should be teaching people about real expressions of love. Maybe we can help stop rapists who try to replace the love they didn't get from women over their life time. Maybe we can help victims of child abuse who will never tell because they've been told it's an expression of love. Maybe we can stop teen girls from giving up their virginity before marriage, because they love a boy. Maybe we can stop making post-menopausal women feel like they can't love their husbands because they aren't pleasured by sex as much as before.

Anyway, I sound like an idealist.