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Lez
Feb 14, 06 - 1:32 AM |
HELP what can i do???
I consider my parents physically and emotionaly abusive, but I am afraid that I am making it worse by taking out the anger in them on myself. I want to be specific, because I have tried to get help before and it didn't work. As long as I can remember, my father beat me with belts, kicked me, threw me down, slapped me in the face, threw objects at reach at me(pots, pans, remote), etc. My mother did the same, and pinched me (usually when her nails were manicured long to hurt), sat on my head as i couldnt breathe (begged to breathe and she said "I'll LET you breathe!"), pulled my hair wen i run away. When i was younger i guess this was truly discipline. However, it progressed to them hurting me when they were angry, not when they were truly just ******* I dont just "believe" that the cause is their anger, they ground me now if i get bad grades or do something bad. If it angers them, i get slapped in the face or things thrown at me. My mother has anxiety issues I think, she takes these prescriptions for "anxiety." Whenever my mother is stressed out, she screams at the top of her lungs, and starts crying at us. This is scarier than her hitting me. Even in front of her friends, she has done this scream. The first time my mother cussed at me, she later apologized. She called me a "******* ****head." Now, my mother and my father cuss at me all the time. They call me a little **** head or sumthing, and use other insults, like saying I would be married off at 13 (when I 10, but that was 5 years ago...). They degrade me when I make them angry, and I make them angry often because I and my sister are both ADHD and we fight often, so we can be disruptive. I cannot just let them do that. I back talk, and I scream at them too, because that is what they do to me. When I say to my mother, "don't yell! I will do it! stop!" she will respond, "I yell because you dont listen otherwise!!" So I "provoke them." That is there excuse for hurting me. I began writing my anger down in journals in the seventh grade (I am a sophomore in high school now.) The entry was "**** **** **** **** **** THAT STUPID **** HEAD" and cuss words to express my anger for my father beating me with a belt. That did not take care of the anger. In the eighth grade i began to cut myself after my parents beat me or insulted or yelled at me. That made me feel better about it, but some freinds noticed, so I began to cut my hips, where no one sees even in a bathing suit. My thoughts got so suicidal I sat on the floor one night crying at home alone, just lying on the kitchen tile floor. Another night after everyone was in bed, i sat with a knife at my neck, but decided i didnt have the strength to cut my neck, so I resorted to a gun of my dads; I pointed it into my mouth, but I could not figure out the safety on it. So I went to bed. I asked for help in a forum or sumthing, and it emailed my motehr back, and so she knew about it, and took me to a counsler. I told her my father kicked me, because I knew that was what is considered the worse abuse by some people, and my father defended it by saying "I kicked her because she ran away." I didnt like the counselor because she did not listen, and I had track practice, so I didnt go. I still had suicidal thoughts and they got worse, but then they went away for a while when I got friends in an advanced program in highschool, the kids were smarter like me. I had a reason to live. Soon, my performance at school dropped because of slacking off on homework. At home the yelling got worse again, and them degrading and insulting me. The suicidal thoughts have come back on and off. Now I just really want to hurt myself, I dont care how. I actually dropped out of the window beside bed, purposely, but it wasnt far enough down to even hurt after a few minutes. I just got up and walked back upstairs, and told my mom "I was leaning out because it was hot in my room" and she eventually laughed... I tried telling my teacher or my friend when there were marks left from a belt on my leg, but I chickened out. Today I took my strattera (it is a medication like Ritalin) late, and before I took it, I backtalked and talked sarcastically the whole car ride to this camp. My parents yelled at me, then they stopped on the side of the road and my dad pulled my hair while my mom tried to pull me out of the car, then punched me some. Then we got back in the car, and she asked why I had a different pair of glasses, and i said "if you heard earlier" and then she got really angry and said "DONT EVER say for me to hear you!!!" and in the car, pulled my head by my hair and punched my head. Then I told her she was spitting when she was talking, and she spit in my face while she was holding onto my hair. It was the most degrading thing. Is there anything else I can do to get away from my parents? Immediately?What would happen to me if i told someone? Would I be taken away from my school, or would I be allowed to stay in the school district? [: |
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sarha bollinson pyne
Apr 15th, 2006 - 11:14 AM |
Re: HELP what can i do???
What you describe is abuse but you left several things out we in the industry call it "truth" you have made three errors in your post ?????? an idication that you need to leave mom and dad but you need to do it the right way and for the right reasons and a person your age knows they are many points of call you can use and as you are under 15 you may well end up with family services as you are to old to be adopted but if you still feel you need to leave go to family services they will not return you to your mom or dad but this is depending on the outcome of investigation to validate your story but be assured that you will be put first and and matter will be taken with your best interests and not your moms or dads interests but this matter may lead to court and you need to think of this later but remove yourself from danger is the first thing you need to do .Can any of your school buddies conform what is going on? or any hospital records indicating you are suffering? anything at all you can think of you need to tell family services or your trusted teacher at school but you will be fully suported in this matter.but one thing bothers me...you stated "." I didnt like the counselor because she did not listen, and I had track practice, so I didnt go". this indicates you think more of running than seeking help..you need to get your head around this situation ....the end. |
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